The Ex Sister-In-Law: "PP" Her Story

PP is the never-married, 40-something sicko sister of the Psycho Ex-Wife. PP has been diagnosed as Bipolar. She has had several stays in a mental health clinic in the late 1990s after a weak attempt at taking her own life. She is an alcoholic. She may even be Borderline herself.

She fancies herself a know-it-all about everything all-the-while having succeeded at nothing. Professionally, she came close – but managed to destroy that and it’s been downhill ever since.

Some of her creepy background:

– She’s been in and out of one disastrous relationship after another. Can’t keep a man around to save her life, because she cuckoo. She’s as much a psycho as her sister.

– Has thrice stolen identities and never been held legally accountable. Stole the identities of her namesakes: her mother and two aunts (who didn’t press charges). She’s also declared backruptcy no fewer than 2-times, wrecked the credit of aforementioned family members, and at our last investigation (2-years ago) had roughly 2-dozen financial judgements against her.

– In one sexual relationship, with a cousin (how close a cousin, I can’t recall) – she became so obsessed with him that she began to stalk him. Dozens of phone calls per day. Sitting outside of his house and workplace. In one extremely bizarre situation – she claimed to have been pregnant with his child in an effort to “win him back,” but chose instead to have an abortion. That abortion never actually happened. She just made it all up and really played it to the hilt, trying to drag who would become an ex-roommate into the ploy, insisting that this girl took her to have it. When people tried to check out the story, the roommate wanted nothing to do with anything and cut all ties with anyone associated PP.

– Once had a nice job that paid extremely well – a “Regional Director” of a well-known computer and electronics retailing company. That much is true. She really had the leadership position over a significant quadrant of the United States. After rising high in the company to this position, she was caught embezzling from the company and stealing from customers and was given a choice – be arrested or resign. She quit. The best she has been able to do since then (about 10-years ago) was waitress, but was fired from many of those jobs for being drunk on the job. She is now allegedly a paralegal – but I doubt that highly.

– Was allegedly the recipient of a sexual proposal by PEW’s first husband, which ultimately led to the end of that marriage. Now, however, I don’t believe it. I’ve actually tracked the first ex-husband down, but haven’t had the guts to pick up the phone and call. He was also allegedly a raging alcoholic, but given the level of projection I’ve dealt with from PEW, I’d be willing to bet that there is a fantastically different version of events from his side. Should I call him? Tell me what you think with a comment. That could be fun or be a complete bust.

– Has vacillated between 120-pounds and somewhere at the high-end of 200s before having her first of two gastric bypasses in the late 90s or early 2000s. Still in the marriage at that point, I remember imploring her that she was going to die because she chose to put away cheesesteaks at a rate that a professional eater would envy. She figured, with the bypass, she could continue to eat like she was eating (a binge eater) and expect the weight to stay off. Instead, she fucked up the surgical results which saw her return to the hospital to have it corrected.

– She’s a drunk, in case I didn’t already cover that.

She’d be drunk at work. Binge drink. Drink and drive. One time, the one side of her car was so fucked up that both right side rims were bent beyond repair. I confronted her about what the hell happened. She couldn’t remember. Really, she couldn’t. The night before, apparently, she went to a bar. Sometime between the time she was in the bar and that damage occurred – she blacked out. For all I know, she may have killed someone. At least once cited for public drunkenness.

– Her and PEW would have EPIC fights. I only wish I had recorded some of the voicemails left at my home for PEW, which sounded as if they were left by Satan himself… at least – that’s what I imagine Satan sounds like. These two fucking idiots would argue over who had a worse life and who wanted to commit suicide more times.

– Her current living arrangements are bouncing from relative’s house to house – including PEWs (which drives me bonkers but there is nothing I can do about that right now), her parents, and an aunt or two – the alcoholic ones.

– Ah yes… and an expert on everything and has now taken up her sister’s cause. As an alleged paralegal for a family law firm, her advice to PEW has been treated as expert and sound. PEW has lost pretty darn near every case brought before the court in the last 18-months as a result. I hope she keeps advising her.

Which brings me to one of her emails sent to me from PEW’s account prior to the contempt hearing. Everyone ready? She joined the fray during the Christmas 2006 debacle and here is her contribution to the issue:

12/23/2006, 1:46AM, written by PP (a.k.a. The Psycho Ex-SIL)

LM,

It’s PP. I showed the court order to the family law attorneys at the firm I work at and they said that the judge was not clear in regards to exchanges for holidays. You and PEW can both have any interpretation that you want but I can assure you that if you go back to court for “clarification”-since YOU were the one to move out of state and continually lied to the judge, over and over again, it will go against you.

PEW will NOT be at the [exchange point] on Sunday and you can show up at her door with the police if you want but there is nothing in the court order saying the police can do anything to her in any way. If you want to be mad at anyone, be mad at your lawyer for not having the sense to ask the judge to spell it out PEW’s not keeping you from the boys, she just isn’t driving on a “holiday”-she is perfectly fine with driving her next scheduled turn. You can try to jam your OPINION down her throat like it’s law, as usual, but it still doesn’t make it TRUE. If I recall, several weeks ago she went out of her way to drive to be nice, when it wasn’t her turn, and this is how you repay her, as usual.

If these matters go back to court, we will bring up how you were non-compliant several weeks ago and made the boys drive HOURS longer than they had to just to spite PEW when you were in [paternal grandmother’s state]. THAT IS crystal clear in the court order. Also, your insistence in moving S6 from a loving, caregiver-again, just to mess with PEW, when it’s CLEARLY in S6’s best interests to stay with [neighbor], will go against you badly-and just wind up costing you more money. We’ll also bring up how S9 works himself into a state of such anxiety when he’s going to your home for the weekend that we don’t know what to do for him. 48hrs of being weighed, measured and harassed continually about his weight sure sounds like a good time for an 8year old. Maybe if you’d just shut up about it, it would work itself out.

I know you feel like you had some kind of victory in court but the judge gave you the absolute MINIMUM she had to in every way. If your lawyer is telling you that you have any grounds on any of the above situations, I suggest that she doesn’t know what she’s talking about and she just wants to continue to bleed you financially even though you have a losing case. Stop harassing my sister because we are not going to deal with your crap for the next 13yrs until S6 reaches 18. If you thought [PEW’s attorney] made a fool of you and DW in court the last time, trust me, we will get somebody even tougher for the next round if you INSIST on continuing the nit-picking and harassment of my sister in this manner. This is the reason you two divorced, remember?

You are a disgrace as a father or you never would have moved to [home state] in the first place. All of your bull**** is your attempts to salve your own conscience about that decision. Let the boys get on with their lives, would you? In the least traumatic way possible at this point? You NEVER put the boys interests/feelings/concerns first-just what YOU think is best for them. Truly, I’m starting to think you are severely unbalanced based on the continual hounding of PEW via phone calls, emails, name-calling etc. I mean, I always thought you were unbalanced but I think you are so bitter over the divorce you have pushed yourself over the edge trying to make PEW PAY for leaving you and taking your SONS. Pull yourself together, DW. There is nothing more pathetic than a desperate man grasping at straws. It’s really very, very sad. I better not hear that DW is harassing my sister ever again or she’ll be in court for defamation of character, harassment etc.

You’re right, we’re done communicating about this. If you really want to see your sons for this visit, you better let PEW know when you’ll be HERE to pick them up.

Merry Christmas. PP

Our commentary:

I cannot begin to convey the level of projection in this email. Obviously, you think you only have my side of the story. You have hers, too. Just keep reading. The email above accuses me of doing/being everything that PEW is and does. It’s not just a “reasonably close” description – it’s dead on. Dead. On. Dead on. Two of the biggest points of projection are:

– The Custody Hearings of October 2006 were a rousing success for me. When I tell you that I got everything for which I had petitioned except primary custody – I’m not lying. She fought every point on my petition. Granted, primary custody was a big one, but a whole bunch of important issues were addressed – all of them in my favor.

– Her attorney made a fool out of no one. I kept calling him by his first name instead of “Mr. Attorney” and he lost his temper asking the judge to yell at me. (Believe it or not, it was not intentional.) And DW, who has extensive litigation experience, was rock solid on the stand. Uncrackable. And DW frustrated her attorney at every turn. That’s not an exaggeration.

This is what her family does – bully, belittle, project, threaten, blowhard, blowhard, blowharder.

The beauty of this email is that it was one of my exhibits and the judge has another one of her sarcastic moments towards PEW with it…

More Highlights from the Contempt Hearing of March 2007:

JUDGE: PP writes in this email packet an email to your ex, and it’s really — it says, “LM, it’s PP. I showed the court order to the family law attorneys at the firm I work at.” —What does PP do for the law firm?

PEW: She’s a paralegal.

JUDGE: Right. And this is an email that PP sent on your address, your email address, to LM on Saturday, December 23rd in the afternoon. Oh, I’m sorry, 1:46AM, so it was like Friday night, late Friday night. So she had talked about this case with the family law attorneys in her firm, is what that email says. PP then talked to you about what the family lawyers said, didn’t she?

PEW: You know what? PP lies a lot. I don’t know if she actually spoke to — I think she was trying to call LM’s bluff or something. I don’t know why she does the things that she does. But, I don’t really want to speculate on that. I didn’t ask her about —

JUDGE: You’re saying that PP didn’t talk to you about what to do if you’re not taking children that you’re supposed to take for a custody exchange, how to not be in contempt? She didn’t tell you anything about that?

PEW: I — yeah, I know what it means to be in contempt. I think it means that if I willfully, maliciously violated the court order, then I should be held in contempt. But that’s not what happened!

Our commentary: How about JC mocking PP’s advice (and lack thereof) to PEW, right there in the record? Again, I know the text doesn’t convey JC’s “‘tude” – but it was out there in all of it’s glory. A 60-something, 30+ year veteran of family court affairs, stopping only just short calling her a flat-out liar. She’s wearing her disdain for PEW right out there on her sleeve

Judge Contempt has PEW, and pretty much the rest of the dysfunctional fucktards that are her family, pegged. That’s good for me.

Buy enough t-shirts and I’ll spring for the transcript of the hearing in August of 2007 where PEW, again pro-se – takes Judge Contempt on mano-y-mano after filing a petition to have her recuse herself from the case! I’ll just make that complete clusterfuck a post in and of itself – no commentary from us. Frankly, as I sit here recalling that hearing, I know that there is nothing I can say that will do it any more justice than JC’s own words will.

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Psycho Ex-Wife, Esquire – Contempt Hearing Highlights

PEW has taken on the role of attorney because she knows better than those in the legal profession how to handle stuff like our debacle. She knows better than the two seasoned veterans of Family Litigation she hired and subsequently fired. They “weren’t doing a good enough job” for her and that’s why she has been slowly losing her perceived grip on the situation(s). Yeah, that’s it. The more she acts on her own behalf, the more she fucks up, the more the people now “in charge” of our lives become aware of just the kind of terrorist we’re dealing with.

I never get to cross-examine PEW. The JC questions me, PEW questions me, and then JC questions PEW. By the time she is finished hearing all of the bullshit, she won’t even allow me to cross-examine PEW on her testimony. That’s just how convinced the Judge was that I was correct and PEW was found guilty of contempt on the issues I brought before her. She went straight to her ruling. It was a sight to behold, watching PEW break out the always popular last-ditch-effort the tears! If I didn’t think I’d be admonished by JC, I would have laughed out loud as she does it every single time she loses something, which has been a lot lately.

PEW: With regard to Christmas, did I not tell you that I was ill at any point?
LM: I believe probably Christmas Eve you told me you were ill.
JUDGE: Okay! Wait a minute. Wait a minute. The emails I have starting, let’s see, December 22nd through the 24th — on the 22nd it starts, “I’m not taking them to the exchange point.” And there’s nothing about sick then, is there?
PEW: Your Honor, I don’t recall exactly when I told him I was ill, but I have brought a doctor’s note, and I bought a letter from my employer.
JUDGE: I’m not sure I buy that. But we’ll see. Because the tone of these letters isn’t “I’m sick, I can’t come.” The tone of these letters is “Forget it guy. I’m not coming!” So, you sit down you ask your question. That one so far is not flying, but go ahead.

Our commentary: This is the very first question PEW, Esquire asks – and JC jumps all over her ass. Keep in mind, by the time PEW, Esquire is permitted to cross-examine me, JC has already asked me my version of events and I’ve submitted a well-organized, highlighted packet of email exchanges that supports the entire timeline of events leading up to Christmas. The text above probably doesn’t do it justice because you can’t “feel” the tone of JC – but she is direct, firm, and sarcastic when she wants to be. She pulls no punches in calling you out when you fuck up. Here’s a tip, PEW – it’s best to remember exactly when you said you were ill when you are using that as your excuse for failing to show up. Dumbass.

For the next excerpt, I wish that there was a video camera permitted in the courtroom and I could offer you a youtube link to JC reading the contents of one of the damning emails from PEW, Esquire:

PEW: With regard to Christmas, did I not beg you to come pick them up, saying that I was ill?
LM: I don’t recall you begging me to come pick them up. I recall you telling me that you were sick and couldn’t drive out there. It was at the last minute. I had plans for the evening. I believe I told you that I didn’t believe you were sick. And, in fact, if it pleases the court, I still have the voice mail from Christmas Eve and you don’t sound sick. You don’t say you’re sick. You say, “If your not coming to pick them up here, I’m going to my mother’s for Christmas,” and I believe you did go to your mother’s for Christmas.
JUDGE: Wait! Let me read this.
PEW: Oh, okay.
JUDGE: December 22nd at 14:59:59, from PEW:

“Go ahead. You’re going to look like an asshole. I’ll meet you next time per the court order. I’m not meeting you on Christmas Eve. That would be so like you to ruin the children’s Christmas. It’s a holiday. I have plans. I’m not meeting you at the exchange point because that’s not what the order says. I will be at my home till 7PM on Christmas Eve. If you’re not there by then, I’ll assume you’re not coming and I’ll take the boys with me. I’m not interfering with your custody. I offered to let you pick them up a day or two early, since you want such meaningful time. You’re so pathetic.”
JUDGE: Okay. Go ahead.

Our commentary: Any person with a shred of intelligence and dignity would have looked at the judge and conceded right there. Cuff me. Jail me. I am in contempt. I am so busted and I have no way out of this. Not PEW, Esquire, though – she is in court, playing attorney and she bulls on through the cross-examination seemingly unfazed.

It’s hard to describe just how flat-out sarcastic and condemning JC was being by reading that and the tone in which it was read. The Judge slapped her across the face and then in the same motion backhanded her – and it totally went right over PEW, Esquire’s head. After all, she had her question list to get through!

Another tip: PEW, when I start going off on a tangent and giving testimony that is incredibly damning to you, try objecting to stop me. Don’t just stand there dumbfounded as I go off on a soliloquy which strongly shows JC what’s at work here.

More to come. Check the categories in the sidebar for more updates. “Transcript Highlights.”

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